Some people make you think, others just damper your spirits

I'm a very positive person and while I love to see the best in everything, whether it be a person or a situation, there are just some things that can't be helped.  Something a previous classmate said made me think.  

"Secrets=power=happiness. I have learned that it is impossible to truly make someone outside of yourself happy. So why waste time. Keep yourself happy and that is all you need. Forget about all of those around you and satisfy only you. The meaning of everything is your own happiness. People will tell you that happiness comes in helping others. This may be true to a sliver of a degree. Making others happy is a disappointment, because you will never get the recognition that you truly deserve, or the self recognition that you strive for. Happiness is a time to time basis."

Over-analyzing is my specialty so I have dissected the meanings and hidden meaning behind this to the point where my scrutiny has hindered my positivity.  So, my question is if people truly believe this.  Don't we all have a circle of close people whom we make ourselves fully vulnerable for and who truly care for us as much as we do for them, those we genuinely care for their successes and try our hardest to barrier failures from them?  Or is it just me?  The ideology that we determine our own destiny is certainly most motivating but the happiness of those around me contributes to that empire I have built for myself (in reality, I'm only 25 so I suppose I'm still building it).  How am I to expect total and complete glee without the merriment of my family and other loved ones in support of that?  Sure, I can be 'happy' unparalleled to others but utter euphoria constitutes the health, well-being and most importantly, happiness, of  those I truly care for.  


So, dearest former-friend, take your cryptic words with you and please don't preach to me about the tough facade you claim uphold because you are empty and bare.  While you try so hard to keep from exposing yourself at the sacrifice of your own support system, ironically, you have managed to expose yourself to the highest level of unhappiness, loneliness. 




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